Spare socks? Check.
Toiletry bag? Check.
Extra phone charger? Check.
High heels that look like guns?
Okay, so I don’t own any of those. But if I did, I’d leave them at home. Because apparently the TSA doesn’t like people taking gun-shoes on planes. Who knew?
With so many people bashing heels, why do people still wear them? If I were a woman (or a guy who wore women’s shoes, I guess), I am pretty sure I wouldn’t wear heels. The benefits just don’t seem to outweigh the discomfort. But honestly? After spending far too much time thinking about high heels while writing this, I’ve realized there’s a more significant reason I wouldn’t wear them.
And it’s something that’s probably holding me back in business and in life.
The real reason I wouldn’t be comfortable in heels: I’m not comfortable with self-promotion.
That’s what heels are, in a very literal sense. It’s presenting a version of yourself to the world that’s a little bit bigger, a little bit better, than the actual you. It’s the real-life equivalent of the bio you get someone else to write for you when you’re uncomfortable talking about your own accomplishments.
It’s not a lie, but it’s an embellishment.
If you asked me to stand up in front of a group and give a 5-minute speech about what makes me (not my company, not my work, not my family, but ME) special, the results would be spectacularly awkward. Like â€œbaby deer learning to walkâ€ awkward. Like â€œteenager trying to walk in 5 inch heels for the first timeâ€ awkward.
And that’s a problem.
It’s a problem because my company depends on me to promote our services. I’m proud to say that our business has been almost completely referral-based for years, which says a lot about the quality of what we do. But if I’m being honest, I’ve probably left a lot of work on the table by not being comfortable talking about my own strengths.
Of course, no one steps right into a pair of 5 inch stilettos and marches down a catwalk. It takes time, it takes practice. And that’s one of the things I’ve promised myself to work on this year â€“ getting comfortable in heels. Making regular changes to my bio, pursuing more speaking gigs, learning to talk about myself as effectively as I can talk about what my company does.
No more flats.
How about you? Are you comfortable in heels?